How do dreams come true?

When you start dreaming, the first thing you think that it’s possible and you see that your dream has already become true. You see the vision in your mind and the excitement fills your whole body and the feeling is amazing. You feel that everything is possible. For a moment you live the way that the dream has become true in your thoughts. But after that exciting moment, you realize that it’s just a dream and very often you think that it will never happen but you would be so happy if it happened. You can already see how your life would change if that dream became true. And you want the change is bad. That is what happens to me, whenever I dream about something.

If you have read my other blog posts, by now you already know that I’m a dreamer. I love dreaming. My husband loves dreaming too. One of our favorite things is to start dreaming when our kids are on the bed or when we drive a car. We start dreaming about our future how we want our lives to be, where do we want to work, what we can do with our kids when they’re a little bit older and most importantly where do we want to live. I think mostly we talk about the places we want to live and what languages we want to learn 😄. Those moments are very precious and I feel that we connect when we dream together. 

So how can you make your dreams come true that they’re not just dreams? I think that the first thing you have to do is to start to appreciate your life at the moment. Find good and positive things about your life and start to be grateful for everything you have. Every time I fail with that step. First what I start doing is to plan and act towards my goal. Those are really important steps too and to reach your goal, you have to do something about it to make it happen before it can happen. But I think it’s important to understand that you have to know how good things are at the moment before you can have something more into your life.

Lately, I’ve faced the same thing again. I have a dream I want to become true. The more time passes by the more I want it to happen and the more anxious I get when I realize that it hasn’t happened yet. I start to think that there’s something wrong with me or I don’t deserve the dream. But at the same time, I realize that those thoughts are not right. I do deserve happiness and I do get everything I want if I just believe it.

When I look back in my life and the dreams which I have had and which have become true, the same pattern is repeated. First I’m excited and really believe that I will get what I dream but when the time goes by and nothing happens, I almost give up and get depressed. I start thinking that I don’t deserve it and that’s not meant for me. I have a few examples.

Ever since I was a teenager I was hoping and dreaming to have a boyfriend who I could share my life with. I always thought that I would have only one boyfriend who would eventually be my husband. Well, that didn’t happen. I had more than one boyfriend but none of them lasted long and I still felt every time that I will never have a husband. I got depressed many times and was really sad about that. I was jealous of my friends who got married and had kids but I still had nothing to compare them. I was really embarrassed to be single. I thought there’s something wrong with me. I fell for the wrong guys and felt even more embarrassed when the relationships didn’t last. I really wanted to settle down but I didn’t know what to do.

Then one day I started to think that there could be something good about being single. I changed my attitude and started to see positive things about my life. I felt that my eyes opened and I could see colors around me. Soon after that, I met my husband. I realized that I needed to give a chance for my dream to become true and see how good things are in my life and start appreciating them. The same pattern repeated when I wanted to have a baby. I thought it would happen fast and easy but it took for me for six months when I got pregnant. I thought that was a really long time and it felt forever. I got depressed and sad when I didn’t get pregnant earlier but when I let go of the negativity and started to think positively about my life, I got pregnant soon after that.

So here is what I do. I start or end my day with writing things I’m grateful for. Then during the day I say out loud things what I’m grateful for. When I go pick up my kids from the daycare, on the way there I say good things about my kids and that I’m so grateful for having them in my life. Or when I go to work the whole trip there I repeat a mantra: “I have an amazing job, I give an amazing service which I get an amazing payment.” And then I start saying how grateful I am of my job. Or before my husband comes home, I start thinking good things about him and how grateful I am for him. Or when I go for a run I start thinking how lucky I am that I am healthy and able to use my muscles and run. And the list goes on. You can start thinking about your own life and really think when you do something how lucky you are that you can do something and how grateful you are about things or people in your life.

So I want to encourage you. If you have a dream, don’t give up. There will be times you will get depressed and you will be tested that are you ready for your dream. Do me a favor and push through all those tests and think about how good things are already in your life and focus on those. The dream you have to work for and you have to wait a little bit longer, it’s worth all of it. You’ll understand later that the journey is the most important and dreams become true when you’re ready for them. Trust me. Be grateful!